Do Not Stray Into Her Paths (Arrows In Your Liver??)

    Proverbs 7

 1  My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you;  2  keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye;  3  bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart.  4  Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend,  5  to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words.

 6  For at the window of my house I have looked out through my lattice,  7  and I have seen among the simple, I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense,  8  passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house  9  in the twilight, in the evening, at the time of night and darkness.

 10  And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.  11  She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home;  12  now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait.  13  She seizes him and kisses him, and with bold face she says to him,  14  “I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows;  15  so now I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you.  16  I have spread my couch with coverings, colored linens from Egyptian linen;  17  I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.  18  Come, let us take our fill of love till morning; let us delight ourselves with love.  19  For my husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey;  20  he took a bag of money with him; at full moon he will come home.”

 21  With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him.  22  All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast  23  till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life… —

I think this is probably one of the most poignant chapters in the Bible dealing with sexual sin. It’s the anecdotal anthem of the foolish young man and the seductress. If you’re like me, you’ve probably been beaten (or beaten yourself) over the head with this passage of scripture so often in your fight for purity, that you can recite chunks of it backwards in your sleep. Though I may be beating a dead horse here with what I say, please bear with me for a few moments; some things are worth highlighting.

Think about the predicament this young man is in. He is described first as being “among the simple,” his character displayed in stark contrast to the admonition of the father in v. 1-5 to “keep my commandments and live.” He is “lacking sense” because he hasn’t “written them on the tablet of his heart” by the study and retention of God’s commands. I know that unless you begin to study and write God’s Word on your heart, you will lack the wisdom God has freely given for every situation in life, especially to avoid sin. The Bible gives us foresight and knowledge of His desires for us. The young man pictured here lacks biblical understanding and is about to act upon his foolish nature.

Following his description as a fool, he passes “along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house in the twilight, in the evening, at the time of night and darkness.” His lack of sense does not afford him the foresight to avoid the temptress’ corner. The darkness also hides him from others who may have seen him and given him warning. He is utterly alone in his foolishness, and is about to pay for it. “Passing along the street near her corner” means he put himself in a situation where extreme temptation was probable. When we who are compulsive porn abusers allow ourselves to encroach upon her territory, as an ox goes to the slaughter, we will be taken captive by her brazen kiss. Being alone with unrestricted internet access, or surfing late-night television -whatever medium the vice may come by- makes failure almost inevitable. I can think of countless times I failed because I did not take proper precautions to avoid being online when home alone, or to avoid having a tv in my hotel room on a work trip without my family. Perceiving this danger ahead of time could have saved me a lot of unneeded temptation and failure. Now, godly foresight helps me on a daily basis to maintain purity before the Lord and my wife.

Let’s not forget the cost of failure. In this story, the Father says that the young man’s mistake in following the adulteress home “cost him his life.” In Old Testament Israel, both the adulterous man and woman would have been found guilty of a crime punishable by death. While we no longer have such harsh earthly punishments for acting out on lust and infidelity, the havoc porn addiction will wreak can still basically cost a man his life. To be left with a broken family and a faltering relationship (or lack thereof) with the Lord, is something no Christian wants. However unthinkable, it could very well happen if porn rules your life.

I leave you with this: any outside measures you can take, along with a healthy dose of scripture, will help you to avoid “passing along the street near her corner.” Heed the warning signs! And now the Father who pleads with His sons through this Proverb concludes with a caution that is as apt today as it was in ancient Israel:

 24  And now, O sons, listen to me, and be attentive to the words of my mouth.  25  Let not your heart turn aside to her ways; do not stray into her paths,  26  for many a victim has she laid low, and all her slain are a mighty throng.  27  Her house is the way to Sheol, going down to the chambers of death. —


About Jeremiah

I am a God-fearing, wife-doting, father of 3 adorably wonderful small children. I find my identity in who Christ has called me to be: a family man, musician, and redeemed escapee of pornographic addiction. I find a new freedom and solace in writing about my experiences and insights the Lord has given me. You will find I have much joy in life, and that as a result, I may inject corny humor and the ironic quip from time-to-time. I just pray that Christ will be glorified through me here, one way or another, by what He gives me to say.

Posted on May 18, 2011, in Christian, porn addiction, Scripture & Insight, sex addiction and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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